# 307 09/12/05 Training for witnessing begins early

As witnesses for Jesus, we testify as to who Jesus is and how knowing him has changed us. We do that through words, but we also do it through our actions. Although we strive to be obedient, it is not our place to demand that of others. If they see what Christ means to us, they will understand why we want to be obedient.

We must keep in mind that Jesus always offered grace to sinners. Even as he was suffering on the Cross, he forgave those who were crucifying him: “Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.’” Luke 23:34a. As witnesses, we must strive to be Christ-like in how we relate to others. That means that we do not focus on their sins. We cannot be effective witnesses if we are judgmental. How do we teach this to our children?

Let us begin on a preschool playground. There have always been mean children on playgrounds. When your child tells you about an incident of unkindness, your response is very important.

You might say, “She is a bad child. At least you have been taught how to behave.” Or, “Just stay away from her.” Or, “I’m going to call her mother and ask her to make her daughter leave you alone.”

Even though there are times when a parent needs to intervene for a child’s physical or emotional safety, many situations can be handled by the child.

Explain to your child that some children have not been taught how to treat others kindly. Tell your child that she should not be the one to tell the little girl how to act. Instead she can demonstrate kindness. Give her examples of how she, your daughter, has learned better by watching than by being told. (As an example, it was much easier for her to learn to roll out cookie dough by watching you than if you had only told her how to do it.)

Talk with her about some specific ways she can show kindness to the other child. Explain that it may take several attempts to get the little girl to respond.

While your daughter is learning to model kindness on the playground, even to an unkind child, remember to include the little girl in the family’s prayers.